We are a TV-less household, so I learned about Miley’s vulgar antics (warning: photos of event are graphic) while at the pediatrician’s office waiting for my son. Thank goodness he wasn’t present to hear the details of the shocking event most tweeted about since the Superbowl. My feelings regarding her performance vacillated between outrage and sadness. This morning the pendulum of emotions rests on just sadness for her.
I have four daughters of my own, so I know a little bit about raising daughters. I also have two sons who will some day marry some one’s daughter, so there is much discussion in our household about being the prince who provides and protects girls. If Miley Cyrus were my daughter or my future daughter-in-law, I would offer her a cup of tea (like I do with my daughters prior to a serious conversation) and suggest we talk on the porch. The conversation might go something like this:
You are loved by a heavenly Father far more than you are loved by the fickle fans that wave their hands to you in shallow, fly-by-night admiration. Reach your hands up to Him and not out to them. He will never leave you, but one lousy performance and fame will send you on your way with heckles and jeers. Fame is fleeting. Salvation is eternal.
There is no need to sacrifice your dignity and innocence on stage. Jesus already made the most scandalous sacrifice in one night. You will NEVER out do Him.
Girls around the world fight for their dignity as they are sold into slavery, bartered into child marriages, and forced into prostitution; yet, you exploit the freedom in which those girls are literally dying for. Every time you shed your clothing for an applaud, a tweet, a photograph, you are really condoning the human peril of those girls who think the only way out of their circumstance is to set fire to their body as a means of escape. You, on the other hand, have choices; you’re just making the wrong ones. You have freedom; you just forgot the sacrifice that it took to get that freedom.
You are fighting for your famous life and you haven’t figured out, yet, that you can’t save yourself. In effort to retain your fame, you do the outrageous, forgetting that there is nothing new under the sun. Put your clothes back on, stop sticking your tongue out like a rebellious toddler, and use your talent to benefit womanhood instead of demeaning it. Madonna, the singer, songwriter, performer, pulled the same antics twenty five years ago and she’s still wandering around in the fog of fame trying to define the meaning of life. The meaning of life is defined by a crudely made wooden cross and some shoddy nails. Kant, Kierkegaard , and a host of others tried to strip that definition from history; but their efforts were in vain. He still reigns as King.
Forgive your parents for forging your path to destruction. Forgiveness is cleansing; it cleans the heart and the mind from the monsters of your past. Once you experience the fresh water of forgiveness, trust me, you’ll want to tell all your friends in LA. Call it the well-ness experience. I encourage you to read the rest of the story in the Great Book.
Clean out your closet of those skeletons that trick you into thinking that exploiting yourself brings happiness. While you are cleaning out your closet, use some of your wealth to purchase a new wardrobe. Modesty is empowering. If you want to be a radical role model then try modesty.
You’ve got beauty and brains, so please start using them to improve the world rather than contributing to the moral, faithless decay of it. Go down in history as being the beauty and brains that contributed greatly to a world in deep need of compassion.
My daughters and I will not hurl criticism your way. Rather, we will pray that your emptiness is filled with a desire for righteousness, and that one day soon you will wake up and embrace the authentic, freedom found in a humble obedience to God— that is the truly liberated woman.